Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Thursday, March 4, 2010
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Simple & Meaningful
One day, the young lion asked his mom, "Mom, where is the happiness?" Mom replied, "It's on your tail."
So the young lion keeps on chasing after his tail. But after a whole day of trying, he failed to get the happiness that was on his tail.
Then he told his mom about this, his mom smiled and said, "Son, you don't really need to chase after your happiness, as long as you keep going and moving forward, your happiness will always be with you."
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You can't decide the length of life, but you can control how you want to live it.
You can't control the weather, but you can control your mood.
You can't change your look, but you can smile.
You can't control others, but you can control yourself.
You can't foresee tomorrow, but you can utilize today wisely.
You can't win everything, but you can try your very best to achieve that.
Hope everyone can face the daily life positively and always be happy...
So the young lion keeps on chasing after his tail. But after a whole day of trying, he failed to get the happiness that was on his tail.
Then he told his mom about this, his mom smiled and said, "Son, you don't really need to chase after your happiness, as long as you keep going and moving forward, your happiness will always be with you."
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You can't decide the length of life, but you can control how you want to live it.
You can't control the weather, but you can control your mood.
You can't change your look, but you can smile.
You can't control others, but you can control yourself.
You can't foresee tomorrow, but you can utilize today wisely.
You can't win everything, but you can try your very best to achieve that.
Hope everyone can face the daily life positively and always be happy...
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Beautiful Quotes
I started to fall in love with poems and quotes since I knew these quotes by Helen Keller.
I used to print them out and sticked on my buku sifir back then during my secondary schooldays.
Although knowing the meaning of the quotes, it doesnt mean understanding them. Being able to feel the meaning that it brings is a thing that I' m learning through my life.
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1.it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return,
but what is the most painful is to love someone
and never finding the courage
to let the person know how you feel.
2.maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people
before meeting the right one
so that when we finally meet the right person,
we should know how to be grateful for that gift.
3.love is when you take away the feeling,
the passion, the romance
and you find out you still care for that person.
4.a sad thing about life is that
when you meet someone who means a lot to you
only to find out in the end that it was never
bound to be and you just have to let go.
5.when one door of happiness closes, another opens
but often we look so long at the closed door
that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
6.the best kind of friend is
the one you could sit on a porch,
swing with, never say a word,
and then walk away feeling like
that was the best conversation you've had.
7.its' true that we don't know
what we've got until we lose it,
but it's also true that we don't know
what we've been missing until it arrives.
8.giving someone all your love
is never an assurance that they'll love you back!
don't expect love in return,
just wait for it to grow in their hearts
but if it doesn't, be content it grew inyours.
9.there are things you love to hear
but you would never hear it from the person
whom you would like to hear it from,
but don't be deaf to hear it
from the person who says it with his heart.
10. never say goodbye when you still want to try
never give up when you still feel you can take it
never say you don't love that person anymore when you can't let go.
11.love comes to those who still hope
even though they've been disappointed,
to those who still believe
even though they've been betrayed,
need to love those who still love
even though they've been hurt before.
12.it takes a minute to have a crush on someone,
an hour to like someone and a day to love someone
but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
13.don't go for looks' it can deceive;
don't go for wealth - even that fades away.
go for someone who makes you smile coz' only a
smile makes a dark day seem bright.
hope you find that person.
14.there are moments in life when you really miss someone
that you want to pick them from your dreams
and hug them for real!
hope you dream of that someone.
15.dream what you want to dream;
go where you want to go;
be what you want to be cuz you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things you want in life.
16.may you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
enough trials to make you strong,
enough sorrow to keep you human,
enough hope to make you happy
and enough money to buy me gifts :)
17.always put yourself in other's shoes.
if you feel that it hurts you,
it probably does hurt the person, too.
18.a careless word may kindle strife;
a cruel word may wreck a life;
a timely word may level stress;
a loving word may heal andbless.
19.the beginning of love is
to let those we love be perfectlythemselves,
and not to twist them with our own image
otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
20.the happiest of people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything
that comes along their way.
21.happiness lies for those who cry,
those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried.
for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
22. love starts with a smile,
develops with a kiss
and ends with a tear.
23.the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past,
you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
24.when you were born,
you were crying and everyone around you was smiling
live your life so that when you die,
you're smiling and everyone around you is crying..
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I used to print them out and sticked on my buku sifir back then during my secondary schooldays.
Although knowing the meaning of the quotes, it doesnt mean understanding them. Being able to feel the meaning that it brings is a thing that I' m learning through my life.
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1.it hurts to love someone and not be loved in return,
but what is the most painful is to love someone
and never finding the courage
to let the person know how you feel.
2.maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people
before meeting the right one
so that when we finally meet the right person,
we should know how to be grateful for that gift.
3.love is when you take away the feeling,
the passion, the romance
and you find out you still care for that person.
4.a sad thing about life is that
when you meet someone who means a lot to you
only to find out in the end that it was never
bound to be and you just have to let go.
5.when one door of happiness closes, another opens
but often we look so long at the closed door
that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
6.the best kind of friend is
the one you could sit on a porch,
swing with, never say a word,
and then walk away feeling like
that was the best conversation you've had.
7.its' true that we don't know
what we've got until we lose it,
but it's also true that we don't know
what we've been missing until it arrives.
8.giving someone all your love
is never an assurance that they'll love you back!
don't expect love in return,
just wait for it to grow in their hearts
but if it doesn't, be content it grew inyours.
9.there are things you love to hear
but you would never hear it from the person
whom you would like to hear it from,
but don't be deaf to hear it
from the person who says it with his heart.
10. never say goodbye when you still want to try
never give up when you still feel you can take it
never say you don't love that person anymore when you can't let go.
11.love comes to those who still hope
even though they've been disappointed,
to those who still believe
even though they've been betrayed,
need to love those who still love
even though they've been hurt before.
12.it takes a minute to have a crush on someone,
an hour to like someone and a day to love someone
but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
13.don't go for looks' it can deceive;
don't go for wealth - even that fades away.
go for someone who makes you smile coz' only a
smile makes a dark day seem bright.
hope you find that person.
14.there are moments in life when you really miss someone
that you want to pick them from your dreams
and hug them for real!
hope you dream of that someone.
15.dream what you want to dream;
go where you want to go;
be what you want to be cuz you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things you want in life.
16.may you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
enough trials to make you strong,
enough sorrow to keep you human,
enough hope to make you happy
and enough money to buy me gifts :)
17.always put yourself in other's shoes.
if you feel that it hurts you,
it probably does hurt the person, too.
18.a careless word may kindle strife;
a cruel word may wreck a life;
a timely word may level stress;
a loving word may heal andbless.
19.the beginning of love is
to let those we love be perfectlythemselves,
and not to twist them with our own image
otherwise, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
20.the happiest of people don't necessarily
have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything
that comes along their way.
21.happiness lies for those who cry,
those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried.
for only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
22. love starts with a smile,
develops with a kiss
and ends with a tear.
23.the brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past,
you can't go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
24.when you were born,
you were crying and everyone around you was smiling
live your life so that when you die,
you're smiling and everyone around you is crying..
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Sunday, July 5, 2009
Conversation with God
God : Hello. Did you call me?
Me : Called you? No.. who is this?
God : This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought I will chat.
Me : I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.
God : What are you busy at? Ants are busy too.
Me : Don't know. But I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.
God : Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
Me : I understand. But I still can’t figure out. By the way, I was not expecting YOU to buzz me on instant messaging chat.
God : Well I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
Me : Tell me, why has life become complicated now?
God : Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.
Me : Why are we then constantly unhappy?
God : Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
Me : But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?
God : Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
Me : But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty.
God : Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
Me : If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?
God : Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life become better not bitter.
Me : You mean to say such experience is useful?
God : Yes. In every term, experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
Me : But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can’t we be free from problems?
God : Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons (to) Enhance Mental Strength. Inner strength comes from struggle and endurance, not when you are free from problems.
Me : Frankly in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading....
God : If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
Me : Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?
God : Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
Me : In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
God : Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
Me : What surprises you about people?
God : When they suffer they ask, “Why me?”; When they prosper, they never ask “Why me?”; Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.
Me : Sometimes I ask, “Who am I, why am I here?” I can’t get the answer.
God : Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery but a process of creation.
Me : How can I get the best out of life?
God : Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
Me : One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.
God : There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.
Me : Thank you for this wonderful chat. I am so happy to start the New Year with a new sense of inspiration.
God : Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is a mystery to solve not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.
The best use of life is love.
The best expression of love is time.
The best time to love is now.
-Author Unknown
Saturday, June 6, 2009
Love and Anger
Why do we yell in anger?
A sage asked his disciples, 'Why do people yell at each other when they are upset?'
The men thought for a while, 'Because we lose our calm' said one.'we yell for that.'
'But, why to yell when the other person is just next to you?' asked the sage.' Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you yell at a person when you're angry?'
The men gave some other answers but none satisfied the sage. Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must yell, to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to yell to hear each other through that great distance.'
Then the sage asked, What happens when two people fall in love? They do not yell at each other but talk softly, why? Their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...
The sage continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'
Then the sage said, 'When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.
A sage asked his disciples, 'Why do people yell at each other when they are upset?'
The men thought for a while, 'Because we lose our calm' said one.'we yell for that.'
'But, why to yell when the other person is just next to you?' asked the sage.' Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice? Why do you yell at a person when you're angry?'
The men gave some other answers but none satisfied the sage. Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must yell, to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to yell to hear each other through that great distance.'
Then the sage asked, What happens when two people fall in love? They do not yell at each other but talk softly, why? Their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...
The sage continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'
Then the sage said, 'When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other more, else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.
Friday, June 5, 2009
Finding and Keeping a Life Partner
This is one of the forwarded emails that I have received recently.. I personally think that it is a meaningful one. It is quite lengthy but worth reading.. :)
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FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
by Dov Heller, M.A.
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here.
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Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust ' i.e.. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as someone who is always striving to be good and do the right. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.
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Another perspective...
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones dont appreciate you?
Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
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An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
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If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
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^O^ xxx Love, Siew xxx ^O^
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FINDING AND KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
by Dov Heller, M.A.
When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound 'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here.
***************
Love is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same thing.
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust ' i.e.. trust that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you plan to marry.
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as someone who is always striving to be good and do the right. So ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2) people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION ..4: How does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be sure that someone, who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve'; them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them. In conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your homework.
*******************
Another perspective...
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention...Which ones lift and which ones lean?
Which ones encourage and which ones discourage?
Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going downhill?
When you leave certain people do you feel better or feel worse?
Which ones dont appreciate you?
Which ones make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or annotations.
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your life.
**********************
An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really that important.
Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare and control?
What do you bring to the relationship?
Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?
You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
****************
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2. COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6. DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes,etc.)
7. SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT FEELING INSECURE
9. GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN WAYS.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will replace.
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^O^ xxx Love, Siew xxx ^O^
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